Boris wrote:Cath - your Bonzini is in the store-room next to the tournament room ready for you to collect it. I've been through all the paperwork and, as you know, we were prepared to return it on Sunday but you unilaterally changed the arrangements at the last minute. It will fit in the back of a standard-sized hatchback. It is now your responsibility to get it home.
This is written to Boris - though due to his complete and utter lack of ability to get a handle on things, I may need to ask other tournament organiser people to help in getting this sorted out! Thanks!
Boris. I can't quite believe that I'm having to write this to you - except that I can, because it is YOU.
You knew when you wrote that post above that it would be completely unacceptable to me. I already told you on Sunday that it is not my responsibility to return my table that YOU BORROWED. Besides that SHOULD be completely obvious to you.
It was your tournament, I didn't even play in it, and I VERY KINDLY lent you my table. To suggest that I now have to have the hassle and expense of getting my table back is ludicrous and unfair.
I UNILATERALLY confirmed to you on Sunday, when you mentioned it, that the table could not go back to my house that day.
One of the conditions of borrowing the table was that there was no access to my property on the Sunday. As you know I was working most of that day, had a rehearsal at my house, and was playing in my first gig that evening.
As a performer you should be aware that a peformer needs to be 100% focused and block out any external forces or pressures leading up to a performance.
Dave Zee told you prior to the tournament that the table could not be returned on Sunday. You have since said to me that that is not true.
Um...who to believe?
I did not particularly WANT to lend my table to the tournament. I have seen how tables get damaged and scrapped in transportation, it's a special edition table, plus I did not want to have to get involved with people such as yourself who are disorganised and last minute.
Putting all that aside, I recognised the importance of having the Bonzini table represented at the UK Championships, plus I heard that a lot of people wanted to play on it...so, I lent the table.
I said that I wanted things sorted in advance...however, things were not confirmed, and in the week leading up to the tournament, I heard several times (e.g. Dave Morgan on msn, and other people) that because so many people wanted to play on Bonzini, that it might have to be dropped from the tournament. In addition, the BFA Committee apparently spent the week arguing over whether Bonzini would be dropped or kept.
So, nothing, including any of the conditions were confirmed until the very last minute.
Incredibly, but believably, Dave Zee had to contact you at midnight the day before the tournament to see if you wanted the table or not.
I understand that Dave Oates was in a similar last minute situation with some sort of lack of communication about his tables and payment.
YOU JUST CAN'T TREAT PEOPLE LIKE THIS.
So...I was up late on Thursday night wondering about the table, and in addition knowing that nothing over payment had been arranged, and no confirmation that damages would be handled fairly.
I wanted to have things organised in advance so that none of this stress and uncertainty would impact on my gig and essential rehearsal time.
On Thursday night, I had a sleepless night, wondering about the table, and other things like the upcoming gig. Not your fault that I couldn't sleep, but the table situation had a negative impact on me.
I lost a crucial half day on Friday morning, when I should have been pracitising, spending time on the phone to DZ, waiting while he phoned you, talking to DZ again, getting repeated calls and texts from DZ, waiting while he spoke to you again. He was trying to speak to you about the conditions of borrowing the table:
1) £40 hire
2) That you would write a letter confirming taking care over transportation and that you would take responsbility for damages and scrapes, etc.
3) That the table could not be returned on Sunday.
Apparently you were extremely angry during the first call with him.
It was ridiculous. This could have been sorted out at least a week before the tournament, in less than 10 minutes. Even if use of the table was uncertain, the potention conditions around borrowing it could, and should, have been organised clearly in advance. It unnecessarily took up a lot of my time and was exceedingly dull and boring.
You seriously need to recognise when people are trying to do you a favour, and do all you can to be cooperative and ease the load on the givers.
...and certainly not Bloop them over with hassle and expenses after the tournament and after you've gotten what you wanted - i.e. use of the table.
In the end on Friday I had DZ arriving at about 4pm to clean the table and sort it out ready for transportation. You guys were to arrive at 5pm. I think you arrived about 8pm. Not a surprise. Though I'm amazed you didn't have problems with your vehicle breaking down. We had already told you that the table needed taking down and moving in the some daylight as it was out the back with stuff underneath it and around it.
So, it wasn't until after 8pm that I had clear space in my day with the damned table gone, with no disruptions.
Luckily, I could leave DZ to help you guys and coordinate it all. The one time I did pop outside, you dropped the table leg, so that was enough for me to scarper quickly inside again.
Chaos surrounds you. And I don't want to have dealings with people like you on anything other than a personal level. I made the mistake of lending you the table, against my better judgement, for the sake of the players.
Can you imagine how I'll feel now if I'm asked again for a future tournament? It is one of the only ITSF bonzini's in the country, and probably the one in the best condition - am I going to want to lend it again? I felt this way even before you tried to Bloop me over with regard to bringing the table back. DON'T Bloop THE PEOPLE THAT FEED YOU.
I'm surprised you even tried to talk to me on the Sunday (when I was having a short break from work and trying to relax at the tournie with my friends).
You told me that you'd like to bring the table back on the early side. I confirmed that it was not possible that day. You pushed and pushed me.
Then you talked to me for a 2nd time, outside when Mase and Joe Bundy were there. I'd already had you going on at me once, I wasn't going to have it again. So I stopped you mid stream and told you it like it was - that the table could not go back that day, that I had my gig to concentrate on, that I had a rehearsal at my house at that time, that I could not risk anything external coming into my 'gig atmosphere'. You are right. I was unilateral. I knew my priorities, my commitment to my guitarist, to the pub and to the audience, and I stuck strong in that.
Bringing the table back would have disrupted me, you needed the back opening up, the things taking out of the room, put back in correctly, etc etc. DZ would have needed to have been there as well, and he was otherwise busy playing in matches and then coming straight to watch my gig and video it. THERE WAS NO WAY I WAS GOING TO LET ANY OF THAT HAPPEN. I WON'T BE PUSHED INTO THINGS BY YOU.
I also offered to spend monday afternoon finding 2 men with a van to pick up and return the table - at the tournament's expense. Obvously, I have to point out to you that this was a nice thing for me to offer to do, BECAUSE YOU JUST DON'T GET IT. I did not have to do this, especially after all the hassle, but I was trying to help.
You then informed me that I would therefore be responsible for the return of the table, and it would be at my expense. You said "You've had your 40 quid for table hire"
40 quid? Are you kidding me? That's pittence for lending you the table for the weekend.
Besides it was an irrelevant comment - in NO way shape or form should the return of the table be my responsibility and at my expense. I lend you my table as a favour, and you want me to incur the cost of it's return?
WHAT AN ABSOLUTE JOKE.
HOW DARE YOU approach me like this on the Sunday on 2 occasions when you knew I had vastly important things to think about? I felt uneasy and upset after our conversation and I was absolutely Bloop FURIOUS.
In summary, I will not have any dealings with you in the future with regard to borrowing my Bonzini table, or with any other matters asking for my assistance with table football. I will help those who are responsible and enlightened - I'll enlighten you now - that is not you.
YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE COST OF RETURNING THE TABLE.
I STAND BY MY OFFER OF ORGANISING 2 MEN WITH A VAN TO COLLECT THE TABLE AND PUT IT BACK IN ORDER IN IT'S ROOM. THOUGH EVEN NOW I'M ASKING MYSELF WHY I WILL STILL DO THIS FOR YOU.
PAYMENT MUST BE CREDITED TO MY ACCOUNT IN ADVANCE.
IF THE TABLE IS NOT RETURNED TO ME SOON THEN I RESERVE THE RIGHT TO CHARGE YOU ADDITIONAL HIRE FOR THE TABLE.
THAT IS THE SITUATION, LOUD AND CLEAR.
John B has offered to return the table, though I'll understand if he now doesn't want to do it as it's quite involved. If he still does, then you are lucky.
IN EITHER CASE IT IS IMPORTANT TO COMMUNICATE THIS ALL TO YOU.
THIS IS HOW TO BE CLEAR, BORIS.